This morning I’m over sharing at my friend Sandra’s…
We met last October in Montana when a group of us who write for The Better Mom website gathered to reconnect.
There was just this bittersweet connection we immediately had as she shared about the tragic loss of her daughter Tiffany, their only child.
And I shared about Selah.
And we became friends.
Sandra heart’s passion is “to encourage, train and inspire women to use their homes as places of ministry, where each can uniquely express the love and reality of Christ in her marriage, in her motherhood and as a woman of God.” And while her daughter’s special heart-space will never be filled, she welcomes the opportunities God has given her to grow relationships with spiritual daughters…the younger women God has placed in her life that she can pour into.
It is a joy to be welcomed into her online home…
Our first three children were born just shy of three-in-three-years.
It was a time of diapers and wipes, doctor’s appointments, potty chairs, figuring out bedtime routines, sticky fingerprints, cheerios, and regular night interruptions.
And the we added two more by adoption.
I remember a lot of joy during those early years, but it’s also a bit of a fog as I try to think back–
Because I was walking around in a bit of a fog at different points along the way.
But one thing I do remember clearly is how difficult it was to make time to invest in our marriage during those years when exhaustion ruled and needs of little ones were constant. We didn’t have family in the immediate area who were able to help out and it was too expensive to always pay for a babysitter. But one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is a solid marriage, so it is crucial during all stages of parenting to make time with our spouse a priority.
And I know that is easier said than done.
And if I’m honest, there were definitely windows of time when we didn’t do this well.
But during those years, God provided ideas and showed us ways that we could invest in our marriage when our children were little. So, in hopes that it may encourage someone else out there, if you are looking for ways to find time to build your marriage relationship, please join me over at Sandra’s for the the following ideas…